as the days and weeks and months go on my relationship with Him is worse and worse I basically don't have any relationship with Him!!!!! I don't understand I cant handle my life why cant he care for me?!
Does God Love Me?
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Posted 24 March 2014 - 12:36 AM
I'm sorry I'm coming in in the middle of this. But it seems like all the moderators are busy and haven't come on here in awhile. I know I haven't. I'm a mother of 3 little kids, so I have a good excuse!
Anyway, it looks like you're questioning your relationship with Hashem, or lack of it? Have you told him this? I know it may seem like He's dropped you, but what is the good that you have in your life? He's there, just very well hidden.
Some people are just so great that He really tests them a lot. But know this -- it's because He knows you can handle it. I know you feel you can't, but does it help a bit to know that the Creator up Above knows you can? I understand it is very, very difficult.
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Posted 24 March 2014 - 08:35 PM
I'm sorry I'm coming in in the middle of this. But it seems like all the moderators are busy and haven't come on here in awhile. I know I haven't. I'm a mother of 3 little kids, so I have a good excuse!
Anyway, it looks like you're questioning your relationship with Hashem, or lack of it? Have you told him this? I know it may seem like He's dropped you, but what is the good that you have in your life? He's there, just very well hidden.
Some people are just so great that He really tests them a lot. But know this -- it's because He knows you can handle it. I know you feel you can't, but does it help a bit to know that the Creator up Above knows you can? I understand it is very, very difficult.
I understand you 
please there ur first priority! do me a favor and just love them and shower them with care!!!!!
I have no relationship with Him and he doesn't care because I cry and cry and cry and call out begging that if hes there to help me im starting to believe that he isn't there...!
good in my life...sorry to say but there is none!!!!
no im not great im broken from it all recently I have in private not kept Shabbos I don't daven etc I just cant handle it!
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Posted 26 March 2014 - 12:52 AM
It sounds like you have a great relationship with Him! You said you cry and cry and cry to Him -- that's awesome! It means you know He's there and you have no other option but to keep trying to get answers. That is awesome. Really.
ok, the part about not doing anything anymore, breaking Shabbos and so forth is not awesome, but the fact that you keep questioning why He's abandoning you and yet you keep trying to contact Him is amazing. I don't think you're even realizing how much you're depending on Him.
And I know He's there. He is there, because there are those millions of us who feel very helped and loved by Him. At the moment though, you are feeling left behind and like He's ignoring you. But I can tell you that it isn't because He isn't there. He is, I see it in my own life a lot. And I can bring you a gazillion people who can tell you that too.
And anyway, He sent me on here to finally listen to you. I practically gave up on this site for lack of time to look at it and suddenly here I am reading your posts. My only regret is that I am not on here constant enough to really be there for you. Do you really not have any adults in your life that you can talk to? Can I help you find someone?
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Posted 30 March 2014 - 12:44 AM
A relationship is a back and forth thing. So you're right, if you feel like He's not here, it's hard for you to keep talking to Him.
What's your hebrew name? I have a relationship with him right now, despite the millions of disappointments and hardships He's thrown my way. At least I can mention your name the next time I talk to Him.
I guess the only way I keep up with Him even when I'm feeling so low is by realizing that yes, He put me down there, but He's also the only one that can get me back up again.
So if you're feeling really, really down, like ending it all and there is not one single person you can trust, there's gotta be someone out there. But no, really there is no one, Hashem is the only one out there to trust. And He's not betraying your trust despite what you think. So really - He is the only one to turn to at a time like this.
Don't expect your life to change immediately, He's not here just to make your life a bowl of roses, He's here to help make you the best person you can be. So all you gotta do is just talk, don't ask all the time. Tell him how much you're afraid and feel that He doesn't exist.
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Posted 30 March 2014 - 01:29 PM
don't want to give my Hebrew name over here bec don't want people figuring out by any chance if theyk know who I am....
I don't know if I can trust him I don't know.im lost.......
bowl of roses? just want him to take the thorns out of me!!
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Posted 01 April 2014 - 01:10 AM
But you're pleading for answers and signs... How do you know when an answer or sign hits you? Maybe I'm an answer!
Do you know the story of the guy stuck on a roof in a flood? People keep coming to offer him help, a helicopter, a boat and he keeps turning everything away saying, 'No, I'm waiting for G-d to save me.'
Tell me about your life a little, and about all the suffering that you're going through. I can't keep track of names on this site and don't know if you've already said it in other posts.
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Posted 01 April 2014 - 07:02 PM
Basically whatever I do the school turns it in to something negative. There very negative with me and treat me awfully! Bec of this my relationship with my parents is awful (as well as with god..) they torture me! Honestly yes I rly think that they enjoy doing this to me otherise why wld they?! I tried having a rabbi talk to them but nothing helps! It's rly hard for me I try to tell them please help me hav a good positive school life I said it's not normal for a hoghschool girl very night for her to cry herself to sleep!!!!
I am confused how Jewish teachers who are in chinuch can b so cruel?! I was told outright by a "rabbi" (yeh right in his dreams is he a rabbi) that I won't make it in life..recently had a teacher who was cynical to me I mean what in the world? These r just 2 examples but that's not it not close to it
!!!! I don't understand there suppose to make u grow love for yoddishkeit but instead there making me hate the jewsi ppl! I don't understand..it's not only with one teacher so u cnt just say he/she has problems it's a lot of teachers!! I get told I'm never gna get married no one will want me...I won't get anywhere in life...I'm worthless...I'm helpless..I'm a bad Jew..I'm not lying this is what I get told!!! Rabbi shapiro can u explain this to me? How do they expect me to wnt to remaime Jewish?
I'm put down by teachers over and over I'm told stuff that you don't say to a student not even in a public school. I was told I'm going to be behind bars I'm going to hell I'm not going to make it in life I won't get married if yes it will b a bad person and I'll get divorced I'm a low life I'm a criminal..to much for me to continue the tears are Here already....why?! Why why do people say such things, how r they in chinuch?! How?! It doesn't make any sense to me. Unless, there right and there trying to prepare that this will be my life..otherise I have no understanding how someone can be in chinuch and talk this way to a student especially a struggling student!!! And the worst part is even when there told that this kids a struggling kid there even meaner! I don't understand there supposed to make there students love judiasm and g-d and make us want to get close with Him but who are they kidding it's just leading me farther and darter away from Him I don't understand...
Okay now I'm just rattling on and on so I'm going to stop but rabbi Shapiro how is this allowed? Unless like I said before..unless there correct and there trying to tell me that yes this is where I'm going to end up...
These are a few of my posts this is osme of my life but, my life is more complicated!
I don't know what exactly I need to see to believe that he is here I don't know but something that I know hes forsure there!
im not like that guy people don't keep coming to offer me help or support - quit the opposite!
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Posted 02 April 2014 - 12:52 AM
not great either because of all this home life isn't good and tension rises and I don't have normal relationship with my family. I try to be non existence. always yelling at me and yeh this is basic "overview" of home life. Both are not good!
