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[Struggling teen]

I never understood why are Jewish people who are in chinuch mean to struggling kids?! I'm struggling through life if they know that why are they meaner then before they knew?! Now it's almost the new year I can't forgive them they ruined me and continue to ruin me! Anyone know what I mean? Rabbi schapiro r"h almost here wat do I do?!

[Rabbi Shapiro]

Sorry to hear you're going through that. 

 

I'd need a bit more information to provide some advice. What happened?

[Struggling teen]

What happend was they bash me in front of classmates they treat me like I'm a animal they tell me in going to go off the derech...there's more to..

[Struggling teen]

Basically whatever I do the school turns it in to something negative. There very negative with me and treat me awfully! Bec of this my relationship with my parents is awful (as well as with god..) they torture me! Honestly yes I rly think that they enjoy doing this to me otherise why wld they?! I tried having a rabbi talk to them but nothing helps! It's rly hard for me I try to tell them please help me hav a good positive school life I said it's not normal for a hoghschool girl very night for her to cry herself to sleep!!!!

[Struggling teen]

I am confused how Jewish teachers who are in chinuch can b so cruel?! I was told outright by a "rabbi" (yeh right in his dreams is he a rabbi) that I won't make it in life..recently had a teacher who was cynical to me I mean what in the world? These r just 2 examples but that's not it not close to it !!!! I don't understand there suppose to make u grow love for yoddishkeit but instead there making me hate the jewsi ppl! I don't understand..it's not only with one teacher so u cnt just say he/she has problems it's a lot of teachers!! I get told I'm never gna get married no one will want me...I won't get anywhere in life...I'm worthless...I'm helpless..I'm a bad Jew..I'm not lying this is what I get told!!! Rabbi shapiro can u explain this to me? How do they expect me to wnt to remaime Jewish?

[Punims]

Also, obviously these people telling you these things are wrong. I know you know that. Stop dwelling on how they could do such a thing and how they could be involved in chinuch. Something went very wrong there, but that is not what you should be caring about. You should be focusing on yourself and being the person that'll make you proud. Figure out what your questions are and ask them to the right people.

[Struggling teen]

Also, obviously these people telling you these things are wrong. I know you know that. Stop dwelling on how they could do such a thing and how they could be involved in chinuch. Something went very wrong there, but that is not what you should be caring about. You should be focusing on yourself and being the person that'll make you proud. Figure out what your questions are and ask them to the right people.

 

unfortuantley I started believing them and what they say about me. its been more then one person....!!!

 

thank you when you get in contact with him please ask him to respond.

[Struggling teen]

and "Ask them to the right people" - whose that?

[Punims]

The right people would be the people that are giving you positive reinforcement and not getting fed up with you all the time.

 

Why are you believing these people if you came on this site yelling about how crazy they are??????? Duh, they ARE crazy and should not be in chinuch.

[Struggling teen]

like who?

Because I don't want to believe but I have no self esteem I hate myself to begin with!

[Punims]

Like me and Rabbi Shapiro of course:) But of course it's better to have someone in your off-computer life as you can't rely on people online to always be there for you. Do you want my email and I can try to get someone reliable for you?

Have a better than usual Shabbos

0000.

(That's my little boy giving his wishes too...)

[Struggling teen]

thanks its hard being alone..

thank you I wasn't on before Shabbos..that little message from ur son was touching..

and no not besides you..where did everyone go?

[Punims]

I have no idea where they all went. I just know I'm not qualified enough to run this thing! All I have is experience. I used to be on this site ALL THE TIME as a teen. I have such fond memories of this site and all my friends on it. A bunch of us met too!

ANYWAY, why don't you go through some of your issues on here and I can listen and give you a place to vent for a bit.

[Struggling teen]

yeh wish it was more active like It was when I first was on here.........

 

because I have been venting if u haven seen al my posts but hard to keep venting it hurts me........

[taon]

I havent been able to respond for a while, but im back. hopefully with pesach vacation we'll have more activity

[Struggling teen]

welcome back

[taon]

Csn you get together wiht other students who have the same experiences

[Struggling teen]

no its not the same with them...

[Struggling teen]

What happened to you Punims?

[Punims]

I'm here, just find it difficult to stop on here too often. Email would work better for me if you want.