Posted 13 November 2011 - 03:11 AM
Posted 13 November 2011 - 05:10 PM
Of course, we do accept converts when they come forward, but we do not encourage it - and certainly we do not randomly convert gentile children.
Plus, adoption, even when appropriate, comes with a colossal collection of complications - Halachic issues such as Yichud and Negiyah with family members (there are different opinions about this), as well as the complex emotional challenges adopted children often encounter. It is not always easy for these children, who, by the way, have the option of becoming non-Jewish again when they turn Bar/Bas MItzvah. Adopted children have a disproportionatly large representation among those off the Derech.
So although for some children, and some families, adoption is a wonderful thing, at other times it may not turn out that way. The issue is more complicated than it seems.
But that's even when adoption is called for. In general, we do not proactively create converts.
Posted 04 December 2011 - 10:47 PM
If this is so, I have a couple of questions. First of all, I hear the point, but I don't understand how the issue can be resolved, because if no Jewish person adopts a Jewish child, then how are they supposed to know that they are a part of the am segulah, and what their responsibilities are as a part of that nation? Do we just give up on any Jewish child put up for adoption?
And my second question is, taking into account what you wrote above, is there really any option for a frum couple to adopt? What if they have no children? What if they have children but are unable to have more but feel a need for more? What if they were able to make a tremendous kiddush Hashem by doing so? I suppose the answer to my questions is that this type of thing must be dealt with on a case-to-case basis, and each couple must consult with their Rav, or another competent halachic authority. Correct?
Posted 05 December 2011 - 05:49 AM
Sometimes they do know who the real parents are, and so that takes care of the problem. And if they do not, there is Halachic complications sometimes. More likely than the possibility of marrying siblings, is the possibility of Mamzeirus, or Safek Mamzeirus, the simplest case being the birth of a child from a divorcee who never received a Get from her first husband (and even if he wasn't married al pi din, it is still a safek).
All this is true, and it makes adopting a non-Jewish child and converting him simpler because it erases his past and he is born anew.
But if someone wants to adopt a Jewish child despite the difficulties involved it is a great Mitzvah. לפום צערא אגרא