Which Rabbi do you poskin by?
Posted 13 November 2011 - 05:26 PM
Posted 24 November 2011 - 10:19 AM
But the answer to your question is, you need to be a Talmid Chacham in order to determine what leniencies you may or should follow in which circumstances. It's like asking how you know which doctor to follow when some say you can eat such-and-such and others say it is very unhealthy. Paskening a shailah is a professional skill that takes years of training, and even then there are, like there are in all fields, those who are better at it than others.
Imagine someone just taking the allowances of every health professional they can find. Not a good idea. Same thing with Rabbanim. Only with Rabbanim it's more difficult, because there's no FDA or oversight organization to help you.
So the answer is עשה לך רב - you need a competent Rav who is a Talmid Chacham to do this for you. And choose the Rav based on his competency and Torah skills and not because he paskens the way you would like to go. That would be like choosing a doctor based on the fact that his opinion allows you to do what you want - you're only fooling yourself. You want to choose a doctor based on his medical skills, knowledge and honesty, and you want to choose a rabbi the same way.
Posted 26 November 2011 - 08:28 PM
Posted 27 November 2011 - 11:30 AM
You are right. The rabbi has no right to do that. You always have to have a Halachic basis for psak, both l'kulah and l'chumrah. Being "Modern Orthodox" is not a heter for anything.If you know of a rabbi that does such a thing, you should stay away from him.
Like, why is it okay if a Rabbi said to someone to uncover their hair and call themselves following a "lenient" opinion b/c they are "modern orthodox".
Yes. Unless we are talking about Apikorsim. Them we do not consider our brothers and we pray that they disappear.
Should we just daven that our brothers see the "light" someday
Your question is too generic for me to give a single answer because you are not explaining who you mean exactly by "they." However, if you mean someone like in the example you mentioned who would give a heter for married women to not cover their hair without any Halachic basis but simply because that's how the people who refer to themselves with a ceratin label act, then they are indeed as wrong as you think. More wrong, in fact, because if someone takes an aveirah and institutionalizes it, saying "This is what our community does", then he is making the Aveirah much worse. Someone who sins even brazenly but knows he is doing something wrong is much better than someone who says he does not even need to avoid the sin.
or are they not as wrong as I think they are and there leniences? Like where are the TRUE leniences, not these stupid ones that don't exist.
משל למה הדבר דומה - Someone is standing in court in front of the judge to defend himself against a speeding ticket he was given. If he says "I was speeding and I have no excuse, I just wanted to get home early," he is 100% guilty. Maybe the judge will have mercy on him, and maybe not.
But if someone says "Judge, I was speeding because I don't believe there is anything wrong with it. I disagree with the speed limit." that is much worse. That person is not guilty of speeding; he is guilty of revolting against the law. I can't see any judge doing anything to such a person but throwing the book at him, and more if he can.
So too if someone gives into his Yezter Horah and doesn't cover her hair, she is guilty. But if you say that you don't need to cover your hair not because of any legitimate Halachic reason, but simply because your community whoever it may be doesn't cover their hair, or you as a person do not believe it is necessary, maybe because you believe that you are "dressing tzniusdik enough already," then you are guilty of a much worse Aveirah than not covering your hair. You are rebelling against the Torah's authority, disagreeing with the very requirement that we follow the Torah. That is not just a violation of Tznius. That is Kefirah.
Posted 29 October 2012 - 06:37 PM
Same thing with Poskim.