Ok I've Heen using frumteens to help me get thru life fo over a year now and I like the new site but also I really liked the old basic easy site ....mabe there can be a way to recover or on our own account see our posts to "check on them" and also the site won't let me log in anymore do I need a new account mabe I also just wana know rabbi .... Um are u by any chance affiliated with any frum Jewish girls high schools in Brooklyn or anywhere ?
Plz plz reply mabe can u email me a reply I won't post my email tho cuz I'm not supposed to ... But plz plz I need help and frumteens has ALWAYS been there for me
Help meeee
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Posted 16 November 2011 - 08:16 PM
Your old frumteens account won't work here.You need to register on this site. When you register, it asks you for an email address. If you prefer, you can email the rabbi at Rabbishapiro@Baismedrash.com.
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Posted 07 December 2011 - 06:56 PM
Hey so bh I'm IN SKEWL i started last Monday and i love it even tho there are often hard things tht come up and um a rly depressing thing happent well a few things 1- my laptop got hacked and my brother can't fix it for about one more month
2- It may seem like a good thing but basically I don't have a Ed rly cuz my friend and I were talking to a life coach person and he said that because I got my Ed thru wanting it by going on pro Ana sites it means I dont really have a problem so I got depressed and started eating and now I'm overweight Nd in a anoying state cuz I have a problem cuz I can't stop eating now but I don't hav a problem cuz it all started not unintentionally well idk I shud b weighing 150 and basically I'm 168 now ....I mean I don't think I am fat but at the same time I HATE HOW I LOOK
3- i changed a lot ...I DELETED ALL THE GUYS FROM MY FACEBOOK AND I TOLD THEM THAT I CANT TALK TO THEM ANYMORE ...it was verry hard but well worth it
4- I went to somthing called a bais Chana retreat it was an amazing inspiring experience with rabbis Nd I made new friends
K idk wat else is going on just a lotta stuf I'll check up on this later ttyl ppl
2- It may seem like a good thing but basically I don't have a Ed rly cuz my friend and I were talking to a life coach person and he said that because I got my Ed thru wanting it by going on pro Ana sites it means I dont really have a problem so I got depressed and started eating and now I'm overweight Nd in a anoying state cuz I have a problem cuz I can't stop eating now but I don't hav a problem cuz it all started not unintentionally well idk I shud b weighing 150 and basically I'm 168 now ....I mean I don't think I am fat but at the same time I HATE HOW I LOOK
3- i changed a lot ...I DELETED ALL THE GUYS FROM MY FACEBOOK AND I TOLD THEM THAT I CANT TALK TO THEM ANYMORE ...it was verry hard but well worth it
4- I went to somthing called a bais Chana retreat it was an amazing inspiring experience with rabbis Nd I made new friends
K idk wat else is going on just a lotta stuf I'll check up on this later ttyl ppl
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Posted 09 December 2011 - 12:26 PM
It is so good to hear from you. I am so glad you're in a school. It may be hard, but it is so worth it.
1. Your body probably has to replenish itself after having been restricted from nutrients for the time you weren't eating right. If you are really concerned about your weight, you can go to a nutritionist who can help you balance the way you want to look and the nutrients you need.
2. I am so, so happy for you that you had the strength to delete the guys from your facebook account. I saw that beauty inside of you, and I hope you now see it too!
Girl -- you've come a long way, and I believe that you can continue on this path. The obstacles may be tough, but just as you have overcome them in the past, you can overcome them in the future as well.
1. Your body probably has to replenish itself after having been restricted from nutrients for the time you weren't eating right. If you are really concerned about your weight, you can go to a nutritionist who can help you balance the way you want to look and the nutrients you need.
2. I am so, so happy for you that you had the strength to delete the guys from your facebook account. I saw that beauty inside of you, and I hope you now see it too!
Girl -- you've come a long way, and I believe that you can continue on this path. The obstacles may be tough, but just as you have overcome them in the past, you can overcome them in the future as well.
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Posted 21 December 2011 - 09:57 PM
I'm sooo Mad so on Monday I had a lot of bad things happen I ran after a b35 limited for 5 blocks =sooo dumb then I was embarrassed @ skewl cuz my teacher told me that my job (clearing ff her desk before she walked in ) I wasn't doing a good enough job so she asked for a "replacement" cuz. I wasn't good enough :'( I started crying it hurt me inside soo much
then I got home told my family wat happent and they didn't give a **** so I said watevr and moved allong
then I was snacking on a apple--an apple!--and my dad told me I'm eating too much so I shud go on a diet it hurt so muc cuz I'm ALLREADY ON A DIET I cut my intake to 1700 cals a day and I've been doing that for like 1 month and now I eat the same ( there cals from salad fruit veggies and drinks mostly ) but then now that my dad said that I couldn't take it anymore so now I eat the same but I take diet pills I found in the medicine cabinet an also I found laxitives and stool softeners but I looked online and laxitives are dangerous so I took the other ones and ya I lost like only 1 pound but the thing is not only did my dad call me fat also MY GRANDMA AND MY CUZIN AND A CLASSMATE !!!!! I wana either loose a lot more rly fast or I wana die I'm so depressed about the way I look and it hurts me so much mentally and emotionally and
I feel like I don't "fit in" anymore cuz i'm fat and I can't b in dance and I am not good at running anymore cuz I'm fat
I hate this ! K I feel bad babiling on about my problems and I feel like I'm a hopeless cause cuz I just have problems no solutions and I got back into the pro Ana sites and I figured out how to even have Internet in skewl from my iPod so I'm on them all day long I NEED HELP !!!! K sorry for this I feel rly bad but it's cuz. I ate a donut and latkes and it rly made me depressed and fat
then I got home told my family wat happent and they didn't give a **** so I said watevr and moved allong
then I was snacking on a apple--an apple!--and my dad told me I'm eating too much so I shud go on a diet it hurt so muc cuz I'm ALLREADY ON A DIET I cut my intake to 1700 cals a day and I've been doing that for like 1 month and now I eat the same ( there cals from salad fruit veggies and drinks mostly ) but then now that my dad said that I couldn't take it anymore so now I eat the same but I take diet pills I found in the medicine cabinet an also I found laxitives and stool softeners but I looked online and laxitives are dangerous so I took the other ones and ya I lost like only 1 pound but the thing is not only did my dad call me fat also MY GRANDMA AND MY CUZIN AND A CLASSMATE !!!!! I wana either loose a lot more rly fast or I wana die I'm so depressed about the way I look and it hurts me so much mentally and emotionally and
I feel like I don't "fit in" anymore cuz i'm fat and I can't b in dance and I am not good at running anymore cuz I'm fat
I hate this ! K I feel bad babiling on about my problems and I feel like I'm a hopeless cause cuz I just have problems no solutions and I got back into the pro Ana sites and I figured out how to even have Internet in skewl from my iPod so I'm on them all day long I NEED HELP !!!! K sorry for this I feel rly bad but it's cuz. I ate a donut and latkes and it rly made me depressed and fat
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Posted 22 December 2011 - 02:27 AM
So I weigh over 100lbs more then you, if I weighed what you waigh I would be happy. I can relate to so much of what you said. What is the point in living? Why do I need to ive in so much pain? Im in a ton of pain! I eat over all my pain. I can so relate to people telling you that you are fat and need to loose weight. My life is really messed up and I need help with a lot of things, some things seem immposible. I know that nothing is impossible. I just am in to much pain and have no desire to do anything. I pretty much stay in bed all day. I recently became very addicted to facebook games. I feel like I am going backwards, back to the guys on facebook, since I have no one else to talk to. I feel like my life is messed up.
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Posted 22 December 2011 - 12:48 PM
I'm sorry -- I read the last post before the earlier one.
Hun - You are beautiful because you are you! If you do need to lose a little weight, do it with the help of an expert, not by medication or with the "help" of pro-ana sites. That's why I recommended a nutritionist in the previous post.
The issue is not just your weight -- it is how you view yourself. This week has presented you with some very difficult challenges in that area, and I cry with you. What can you do about it? Daven, again and again, for help. Work with a therapist and a nutritionist - it can be really helpful! At the same time, I think you need to find a way to shine. Find an area in which you excel, and I am sure there are many. It should be something that you love to do, and invest yourself in it.
I wish I could take your hurt away - and this is from a stranger who loves you as a Hashem's child. You have many challenges, and they are real. However, I feel that with a lot of siyata dishmaya and the right support group, you can overcome this.
Hun - You are beautiful because you are you! If you do need to lose a little weight, do it with the help of an expert, not by medication or with the "help" of pro-ana sites. That's why I recommended a nutritionist in the previous post.
The issue is not just your weight -- it is how you view yourself. This week has presented you with some very difficult challenges in that area, and I cry with you. What can you do about it? Daven, again and again, for help. Work with a therapist and a nutritionist - it can be really helpful! At the same time, I think you need to find a way to shine. Find an area in which you excel, and I am sure there are many. It should be something that you love to do, and invest yourself in it.
I wish I could take your hurt away - and this is from a stranger who loves you as a Hashem's child. You have many challenges, and they are real. However, I feel that with a lot of siyata dishmaya and the right support group, you can overcome this.
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Posted 25 December 2011 - 11:49 PM
O I never thot of it like that I man I know ppl have it woorse than me but. I don't think abt it like that ever but I'm gonna try to stay strong and get btr bit. I can't go to a nutritionist cuz they will just tell me to EAT and right now all my body is able to digest is eggs and salad so there's no chance of me getting better eseciallu with the court worrying abt my mental stage cuz mmom told the court that I'm suicidal so that want me to go to a mental home. Idk k I feel like **** so I'm stoping my tupid diet btw I know it's bad and I gotta stop cuz basically if I'm in a bad mood I just started drinking wine or vodka or whiskey or beer and it makes me tipsy and dizzy so I feel numb and also I started cutting agan and basically I'm falling apart
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Posted 27 December 2011 - 12:37 PM
Sweetie - Some things are too big to handle alone. Please go and get help. I know the name of an awesome person who can really help you. I don't think I am allowed to post it, so please email the site administrator and he can act as an intermediary so that I can give you the name. I believe you can reach the administrator by emailing rabbishapiro@baismedrash.com.
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Posted 23 January 2012 - 01:22 AM
bh im fine im @ a overweight number now .. major depressing.. but im in skewl now bh in brooklyn a frum good skewl .. and im growing spiritually so much ... and weight is prob always gonna b a issue but too bad hashem gave me this challenge for a reason i guess ... k well ill rte more later but im exhausted cuz its 1:20 am ... but i got insomnia woorse now ..and i put up a vid on youtube about 2 months ago and its of pics of me .. not sure if its a good idea to post it cuz im not verry tznius in it ... but basically its pics of me at my lowest and ppl were commenting saying im a fat ***** so it hurts and i wana get better so i havent been on my laptop in a week ... thats big for me .. midterms in skewl im doing great .. passed so far all except for one ...
k im seriously going to sleep but bh im great ( i think) so ill tty'all later
k im seriously going to sleep but bh im great ( i think) so ill tty'all later
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Posted 09 February 2012 - 12:18 AM
sorry i havent posted this .. basically i forgot my password .. but bh ive been able to get back onto my laptop ( skewl is kinda taking up my time )
but heres the thing i rote like last week ....sooo I'm great having a busy life as usual .. Basically my mom an dad r divorsed (just in case u dont know )
so September she kicked me outta her house and in a way it was hard but also it was the best thing thaat could have happent to me cuz I just realize this past weekend me and my frien went to my mom for a Friday night dinner meal and her husban (she's been remarried for 10 years ) is a pervert he was winking at my friend the entire meal and hen they were talking about verry inapropriate things andwhile we were putting on our coats to leave they gave my FRIEND A PRESENT ????? My mom bought me a ring that was too big so I said no thanx it was a cheap ring so I figured fine it's ok but she started rubbing it in like "see ur friend apriciates rhings I give her more than u and that is y i'm givving it to her not u " And then when we were still standing there her husband said might I add VERRY CLEARLY he said "don't come in me and my wife are naked " that's what blew me off I said to myself I'm not comming back to her house
Then about 2 weeks ago she called me up to tell me there's a sale at a store so she offered this " i'll drive u to the store if u would like but don't expect me to spend a Peny on u " so that's just mean so I said no
Also every Thursday my mom goes to. A social worker cuz I told her some advice and I. Told her to get one .so evry thurs from 4-5 she's there in Flatbush ..near my skewl .. So at 5 I get dismissed so she calls the skewl so they tell me shes waiting for me ,,,, me being a nice person / not being rude usually gladly excepts the ride ... but this week she called me and said shes allready waiting outside so i told her to either drive away now or ill talk to her in a min when i get there ... she was still there .. it was raining....i had no more swipes left on my student metro card( i had to walk home in the rain ...it was cold outside also ) but i was stubborn and gave her the meanest thing possible .. i went to her car and yelled at her saing that "id really love a ride home in ur warm car but after ur husband being so inapropriate and u not realizing i cant be seen with u anymore .. and i have no intrest .... id rather walk home (talkesan hour) in the cold rainy dark then to be with u in ur car and i walked away .)
i feel bad a little bit but actually she deserves it ... i think .. she might have cried her way home but i dont care ..
oh and even woorse now i dont want to know she exists cuz i hate her and i hate my life .. so ive been totally stable with my ed ... sh .. all issues went away bh .... until last thursday ... the car issue was 2 weeks ago .. court was last week .... so basically my mom went to court again (custody )
and decided the last resort to try and get me to not be with my dad was say im crazy and that i need to be put into a mental institution .. so she went to court and said verry clearly ( and my dad never knew this before ) that MY DAUGHTER HAS ANOREXIA AND BULIMIA AND SHE IS DEPRESSED AND SUICIDAL AND I SHE HASENT BEEN TAKING HER PILLS so basically my dad came home totally didnt believe her cuz he thinks im perfect .. oy vey ... but he was joking all shobboss that oh you have an eating disorder .. but i dont even look close to it anymore .. then i went to a store in bp and was looking for a shobboss robe so the large was way to big but the med was a lil small so the lady said i shud get the med and loose some weight ... that wasnt wat i wanted to hear but whatever ... but ya now my law im required to find a psycyatrist or a psycologyst not sure which one yet ... but ill keep yall updated iyh
but heres the thing i rote like last week ....sooo I'm great having a busy life as usual .. Basically my mom an dad r divorsed (just in case u dont know )
so September she kicked me outta her house and in a way it was hard but also it was the best thing thaat could have happent to me cuz I just realize this past weekend me and my frien went to my mom for a Friday night dinner meal and her husban (she's been remarried for 10 years ) is a pervert he was winking at my friend the entire meal and hen they were talking about verry inapropriate things andwhile we were putting on our coats to leave they gave my FRIEND A PRESENT ????? My mom bought me a ring that was too big so I said no thanx it was a cheap ring so I figured fine it's ok but she started rubbing it in like "see ur friend apriciates rhings I give her more than u and that is y i'm givving it to her not u " And then when we were still standing there her husband said might I add VERRY CLEARLY he said "don't come in me and my wife are naked " that's what blew me off I said to myself I'm not comming back to her house
Then about 2 weeks ago she called me up to tell me there's a sale at a store so she offered this " i'll drive u to the store if u would like but don't expect me to spend a Peny on u " so that's just mean so I said no
Also every Thursday my mom goes to. A social worker cuz I told her some advice and I. Told her to get one .so evry thurs from 4-5 she's there in Flatbush ..near my skewl .. So at 5 I get dismissed so she calls the skewl so they tell me shes waiting for me ,,,, me being a nice person / not being rude usually gladly excepts the ride ... but this week she called me and said shes allready waiting outside so i told her to either drive away now or ill talk to her in a min when i get there ... she was still there .. it was raining....i had no more swipes left on my student metro card( i had to walk home in the rain ...it was cold outside also ) but i was stubborn and gave her the meanest thing possible .. i went to her car and yelled at her saing that "id really love a ride home in ur warm car but after ur husband being so inapropriate and u not realizing i cant be seen with u anymore .. and i have no intrest .... id rather walk home (talkesan hour) in the cold rainy dark then to be with u in ur car and i walked away .)
i feel bad a little bit but actually she deserves it ... i think .. she might have cried her way home but i dont care ..
oh and even woorse now i dont want to know she exists cuz i hate her and i hate my life .. so ive been totally stable with my ed ... sh .. all issues went away bh .... until last thursday ... the car issue was 2 weeks ago .. court was last week .... so basically my mom went to court again (custody )
and decided the last resort to try and get me to not be with my dad was say im crazy and that i need to be put into a mental institution .. so she went to court and said verry clearly ( and my dad never knew this before ) that MY DAUGHTER HAS ANOREXIA AND BULIMIA AND SHE IS DEPRESSED AND SUICIDAL AND I SHE HASENT BEEN TAKING HER PILLS so basically my dad came home totally didnt believe her cuz he thinks im perfect .. oy vey ... but he was joking all shobboss that oh you have an eating disorder .. but i dont even look close to it anymore .. then i went to a store in bp and was looking for a shobboss robe so the large was way to big but the med was a lil small so the lady said i shud get the med and loose some weight ... that wasnt wat i wanted to hear but whatever ... but ya now my law im required to find a psycyatrist or a psycologyst not sure which one yet ... but ill keep yall updated iyh
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Posted 10 February 2012 - 12:19 PM
Everything has a silver lining. The gehennom you're going through with your mom is giving you the opportunity to get the help you need to deal with her! It will also help you consolidate your gains, and keep getting stronger and stronger. Please keep us posted!
