No one knows what to do. Or are afraid to do anything.
Smilingirl - I suffered from anorexia for 10 years, and bh, have been 2 years recovered (i'm only 24). I have to tell you that at least when it comes to an eating disorder (don't know about other emotional disorders like depression), you have to WANT to get better. No matter how much others want to help (or don't), nothing will change unless you do. You have to know in your heart that you're ready to heal yourself... and only then will you be able to accept others' help (or do it on your own).