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#1 elliotm300



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Posted 04 January 2012 - 04:03 AM

Hi everyone,

I've been having a problem recently that although i am slightly too young to be going on shidduchim (but iyh next year!), I have been finding myself feeling attracted to older guys. Like in their 20s or late teens, but the kind who go around with their tzitzit out, or who you see dovening with so much kavana! I'm worried that this is really wierd, and dont want to ask my friends about it incase they dont feel the same way.
I just find frum boys really attractive! The frummier the better? Is that strange? Do I need help?

Thanks y'all :)

#2 Punims



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Posted 03 February 2012 - 12:54 AM

I don't see any reason that this is weird or wrong. You're a girl, right? If not - then we have a problem!

You're not strange and you don't need help.

#3 danceInTheRain



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Posted 05 February 2012 - 08:15 AM

why are these boys not marriage material? is it because these boys are way way frummer than you? i dont quite understand where the problem is :rolleyes:

#4 Tick-Tock



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Posted 05 February 2012 - 08:46 PM

I can't help wonder how old you are or where you're from... You say that you're too young for shidduchim - "but IY"H next year!"... and that you find yourself attracted to older guys - "like in their 20s or late teens." Depending on where in the twenties, I can hear a side to say "older," but late teens?

#5 Soulrebel



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Posted 06 February 2012 - 09:24 PM

To Elliotm- you aren't the first or the last person to have a "thing" for frummies. I have a couple of friends who are into frummy guys.

On a completely different topic- how can you be a year away from shidduchim and consider older teenaged guys too old at the same time? And why is your sn a boys' name? Cuz if you're a dude, this is a different discussion altogether. Not to be nosy or anything :P

#6 rocksdontfly



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Posted 15 March 2012 - 10:54 AM

I have the same thing:) Im 17 and I've always had a thing for older guys because they're wiser and more experienced with life. And ab the frum thing, totally with u on that! ur not crazy :) (or maybe were crazy together:p)