not trying at school- help?
Posted 09 February 2012 - 06:29 PM
Posted 09 February 2012 - 09:07 PM
Baisically, I used to be a very good student. B"H I dont need to work very hard, and I can still get good grades. Within the past 1 or 2 years though, I just stopped trying. I dont know why, I guess I can be lazy, so I just stopped working at school. Like I dont listen, do hw, or study in a few classes, and then in others I just dont study. One or 2 classes I actually do all 3 (!), but thats rare. Somehow I pass- I never failed a class, but I get in the 70s instead of the high 90s. But it doesnt bother me at all! I'm just scared that I wont get accepted into the college I like, or that I will fail a class and have to take it again. Sorry, I'm talking too much but does anyone have any ideas of how to help me get over my laziness, or want to work, or something?
Just curious: do you feel a sense of accomplishment, say, when you earn a high grade, or do you have the same feeling when you get a 90 as you do when you get a 70? I'm wondering because I think that knowing that can give me a better idea of what suggestions to offer be"H.
For the time being, I would say start with classes you like more. Try to get as much out of them as you can: ask questions during class (doing this requires following the lesson; by paying attention, you can formulate questions) and consider how you can apply the concepts to your life. Another way to involve yourself in the class is to ask the teacher if the assignments can be more creatively-based (or whatever works for your style of learning), which can allow you to contribute your own flavor to homework, projects, etc--something that might make the material more interesting for you.
As a way to motivate yourself to do the work, I would suggest 1) set up a buddy system with a friend and remind each other to be "tuned in" during class time 2) reward yourself when you do succeed in paying attention/ studying/ doing the work. You can make yourself a sticker chart (I know it sounds like an elementary-school tactic, but I've seen seminary girls do it for personal goals they had--and it works!) and when you earn x number of stickers, buy yourself an ice cream, a CD, etc.
Posted 11 February 2012 - 07:07 PM
thanks so much for responding
Usually it doesnt make a difference to me- getting a 70 or a 90, but once in a while, I feel good about the 90.
I think I'm going to try the sticker chart it sounds like it will help me
Hatzlacha rabbah! About feeling good when you get the ninety--hold on to that feeling and try to visualize or re-experience it when you don't feel motivated to do schoolwork...feel how good it feels when you do your best and it pays off!