Ok so I switched schools this year and I love it but like u get this feeling every day after school like I have no friends and I'm a hopeless case but I'm really not that I'm well liked but idk what this weird feeling is it driving me crazy and I feel si alone sometimes like I have nothing to do..
At a loss
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Luvschool
, Feb 23 2012 05:21 PM
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flybird
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Posted 24 February 2012 - 01:58 PM
I dont understand exactly what you mean by friends. If you're talking about people to talk to and whatever, then it could be that you're just not feeling completely stable in your school, and maybe after being there for at least a year it will be better.
If you mean that the relationships you have right now are too shallow, and you need a REAL friend, then its hard to say, because people never have a lot of real friends. I guess you have to know what you want in a friendship, and if you find someone who seems like a person who you can become really good friends with, then TRY to start a close relationship with them. Maybe ask for advice from them, as a start, and hopefully it will continue out. But a friendship is a 2 sided agreement- if after a while (not just one or 2 days) u can tell that the other person still doesnt want to be friends with you, then let go. By holding on it'll make it worse- you'll keep feeling like she doesnt like you- and each time it'll really hurt and she will also probably get annoyed and hurt you even more. You might not even be able to find a real friend in your school- maybe if you go to a camp or join groups for different things, you can find someone there instead.
Also when you say you have nothing to do, do you mean friendship-wise? You say that you're well liked, so maybe if you can get people's numbers, and call them up when you're at home, that way you'll feel like you do have friends even when your home. Its very possible that someone really wants to talk to you but is too scared to call you.
I wish you lots of hatzlacha!
If you mean that the relationships you have right now are too shallow, and you need a REAL friend, then its hard to say, because people never have a lot of real friends. I guess you have to know what you want in a friendship, and if you find someone who seems like a person who you can become really good friends with, then TRY to start a close relationship with them. Maybe ask for advice from them, as a start, and hopefully it will continue out. But a friendship is a 2 sided agreement- if after a while (not just one or 2 days) u can tell that the other person still doesnt want to be friends with you, then let go. By holding on it'll make it worse- you'll keep feeling like she doesnt like you- and each time it'll really hurt and she will also probably get annoyed and hurt you even more. You might not even be able to find a real friend in your school- maybe if you go to a camp or join groups for different things, you can find someone there instead.
Also when you say you have nothing to do, do you mean friendship-wise? You say that you're well liked, so maybe if you can get people's numbers, and call them up when you're at home, that way you'll feel like you do have friends even when your home. Its very possible that someone really wants to talk to you but is too scared to call you.
I wish you lots of hatzlacha!
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Posted 24 September 2012 - 06:46 AM
From personal experience i have learnt that the more you are OK with yourself, with being alone sometimes, The more you can be your own best friends the more people are attracted to you and you end up with tons of support and friends. I know its ironic but it really works like that.
Do stuff that you are good at and that make you feel good about yourself. People are attracted to happy and content people.
Do stuff that you are good at and that make you feel good about yourself. People are attracted to happy and content people.
