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How To Love People And Be A Friend


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#1 Rabbi Shapiro

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Posted 07 March 2012 - 06:29 PM

http://www.baismedra...nd-be-a-friend/

#2 eidel

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Posted 08 March 2012 - 03:22 AM

I think it's feminine nature to try to identify oneself with what other people want from one.
If that's going too far, let me say that girls focus more on others' reactions to build their self-image, while boys can be happier in their actions alone.
That's probably why girls tend to get stuck more from the gap between what they feel they are inside and what others think they are or want them to be.

When I was imposed upon a false identity, I couldn't make friends either (and this was for more than a decade). Only when I fixed it back to what I originally was (and for example my name switched back to the name I was born with), I was able to make friends again.

The linked article of the Rav sheds a magnificent light of clarity on a crucial factor in truly connecting with people...
I hope we all notice that it's not only the "qualities" that a person has that should be recognized, but the basis of "who he is" must also not be ignored...