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[Ziva613]

If you have non Jewish family, how do you handle their confusion over/about Judaism and religiosity?

[Rabbi Shapiro]

Is your family not Jewish due to intermarriage? Or was there a conversion involved?

How are you related to these non-Jewish members of your family?

And what kind of confusion are we talking about?

[Ziva613]

There was a conversion involved.
Confusion being that they don't understand anything about Judaism or why we would choose to be in a religion "with so many rules."
Family is extended.

[Rabbi Shapiro]

Two options:

1) Explain to them that the rules in Judaism aren't just rules, but rather each and every one of them has meaning behind it that makes life more purposeful, enjoyable, deep, and understandable. And so the rules are well worth following.

2) Explain to them that Judaism isn't "a" religion. It is the only religion that has a solid history going all the way back to Mt. Sinai where G-d Himself revealed this religion. And those who take upon themselves these "rules" will be richly rewarded for all eternity. Explain to them that good things do not come easy - no pain, no gain - and that the Good in store for those who fulfill Judaism is well worth it.

[Ziva613]

Okay, i will try that for sure. But another question. What if they don't want to hear it?
I know people can hear you without listening to you. What should i do if they just don't want to understand it? I love them dearly but my Judaism is more valuable to my immediate decisions and life.
Should one stop trying with their non Jewish family?

[Rabbi Shapiro]

If they won't hear it then just leave it. As time goes by, they will see that your family is happy and healthy and it will not matter to them. In any case, it is your choice, you are an adult, and they will have to learn to live with it.

[Ziva613]

I suppose you are right... Thank you. Have a good week!