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[ilavHashem]

Ok so im friends w her a bit
Like just in school type
She dusnt rlly hav frends so much
N if shes coming to me n saying tht then im not saying im taking her on as a chesed case
Doesn't she wana know sum1 cares??? Do u?
honestly if im havng an oppertunity to help
If Hashem put me in me in her life
Thn i want to do all i can
N if ur saying i shud stay away cus im nt a true frend... Fine.... But it just doesnt seem right

[badjew]

Sorry it took so long to get back to you... i can't speak for her, i can only speak for myself, and being that i don't know her, or her personality, or anything about her other than she's got an awesome friend named ilavHashem, i can't answer specifically. i can tell you my opinion, but you're going to have to do the practical application as you see fit...

What i was trying to say was that neither one of you should feel that she is your chessed case. As long as both of you are cognizant of this NOT being the case, then it shouldn't matter if you're "best" friends with her or stam someone she feels she can trust (you can get into a whole discussion of what friend means.For this purpose, lets take it to mean someone that one trusts, in which case you are her friend as she seems to trust you.). 

Yes she wants to know someone cares. Everyone does, even if she is not conscious of that desire at the moment. Apparently this person is. If you feel that you really truly can help, then go for it! But again, don't get in over your head. Yes you care, and yes Hashem put you there for a reason, and if you can help, that's awesome! Just be sure that you get any support that you might need. And again, that this is not the basis of your relationship. (Unless you don't want to be friends with her when this is over...) i'm sorry if i'm being unclear... 

בהצלחה!!!