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[Woried]

hi
Im 20 years old, and I spend half ma day wondering if i will ever get married - I feel like i missed the boat, since i want a good learning boy - yet since i left seminary i was not so perfect - now i have become good again but which guy is going to want a girl like thus??? are my normal, have other girls also done stupid stuff and still married good boys???

[AYidOnTheWayUp]

I would think that depends on how serious the "slip up" was.

[danceInTheRain]

Hey there worried!
I totally understand your fear.
Of course you are an adult and mature and all that but between me and you, you are still young. I really doubt you missed the boat. Focus on building yourself up. On creating a productive life for yourself and Iy"H you will find the right one in the right time.
the important thing is to proove to yourself that you can be - as you put it- good. Once you do that the rest of the world will be convinced too!
Don't feel like your totally bad. These years after seminary are really tough.
Remember, The learning guys basically stay in yeshiva until they get married. But as girls we leave school and suddently find ourselves with no structure. that's a challenge even the best girls have.
Daven hard and Iy"h you will find him in the right time.