What I Wish I'd Known
Posted 07 November 2012 - 01:10 AM
if you're going to seminary in eretz yisrael, be prepared for an amazing super fantabulous indescribable year! seminary is amazing, eretz yisrael is amazing, put them togther and ! that being said, if you've been avoiding therapy, and deep down you know you need it, or you know it might be a good idea to go, then do it! either before you go,now this year, or do it in e"y. speak to someone you trust here before you go and ask them to help you arrange it, or ask your eim bayit or principal. i know it's hard and i know it's embarassing, but believe me, the alternative isn't much better. an added plus is that if you don't want your parents to know, it's easier to keep it from them once you're there. but do yourself a favor and get help! i didn't and i still haven't, and i'm still dealing with the reprecussions. it was a huge mistake on my part not to have dealt with things before going or while i was there. and ya, it might be embarrassing to tell someone, but if you get help, then less pple know... one of my friends saw a therapist while there, and nobody knew. i didn't, and my madricha, eim bayit, principal, and best friend all tried sending me... had i gone at the beginning, chances are mymadricha and eim bayit and principal wouldn't have had to know what was going on. (that's not to say they wouldn't have picked up on it anyways being the amazing people that they are, but nobody would've told them...)
in eretz yisrael you have a unique chance, you're being given a year for you to use to maximize your potential, to grow, and to strengthen yourself in every way. USE IT!!! i wish i had...
and don't, don't, don't make your friend your therapist. it's not fair to her and it's not fair to you.
just take my word for it, it's k'dai to get help before and/or during your year in the aretz. and i don't say this lightly... i've been fighting it for about 5 years now... i know it's hard, and you don't want to and all htat. but b'emet, it's really to your benefit.
that being said, have an absolutely amazing year! (as if it's possible not to while being in e"y!)
Posted 21 January 2014 - 03:10 PM
If you want one it usually means you need one try it and you will see it helps I hav personally been to four different ones and I feel everyone can benefit but if you get a bad one it is so damaging so if you get one make sure they are decent
"if you get a bad one it is so damaging so if you get one make sure they are decent"
so so so so true. ive been to alot of different therapists. and sustained alot of pain because they were either bad therapists or just not right for me. and the pain was amplified because i was going through such a crazy hard time.
one thing to remember is that the therapy is for you. if its not working for you, then try to find a better match
my parents (and me) basically gave up on finding a therapist that would work well with me. but now in therapy again, working with the right therapist! its hard hard work, but its actually helping me this time
Posted 02 February 2014 - 12:40 AM
yes! and don't just make sure they're not damaging make sure they're right for you! i've seen a few different theripists and i lost so much just because they were'nt right for me and didn't treat me the way i needed... don't just be comfortable with them make sure you'll heal the way you have to...