Posted 03 May 2012 - 12:03 PM
You are a sensitive, deep, person who is in a lot of pain. Sadness is like a black hole – it sucks every part of you inside, and it is very hard, if not impossible, to feel connected to people outside of you. It is so natural for a sad person to become introverted, and disconnected from those around you. You become locked in a shell and you’ve thrown out the key.
Sweetie, obviously, I don’t know you. But can you believe me when I say that I care about you, even that I love you? Please, please trust me – you have to break out of that shell. Yet, doing that is so, so hard.
Here are some possibilities: 1. Go to therapy. I know you don’t want to, and that it hurts. But, and you know this in your heart of hearts more than anyone, it hurts more not to go to therapy. 2. After you commit to go to therapy, try to volunteer to help people in need. This will allow you to connect with others, and, instead of focusing on your own, genuine pain, you can redirect your sensitive heart to alleviating the pain of others. 3. Maybe try to daven that Hashem take away the pain, instead of taking away you. We need you here!
You say that you can’t see past the clouds, but in your heart is a warm glowing fire that can clear the clouds just like the sun does. Just find ways to allow that warmth to shine, regardless of the trials and tribulations. And please, never forget – a stranger, who wouldn’t even recognize you on the street, loves you. Certainly, then, Hashem always loves you. Keep your chin up, and keep fighting – the sun can shine through even the heaviest clouds.